Below is a chapter from Rule #2: Don’t Be an Asshat: An Official Handbook for Raising Parents and Children. Over time we will be posting most of the book, though, should this inspire you to buy a copy, we would not be offended 🙂 Posted chapters can be found in the Table of Contents.
Rule #48: Have good sex (Dad)
Never fear, no diagrams or visual aids will be used. But since Mom chickened out about writing this section, you get Dad’s thoughts on sex. Like I said: Not. Awkward. At. All.
As you develop intimate relationships (of which sex will be a part), you will discover positive and negative ways in which you view all facets of a relationship. Sex is no different than the other aspects, so because I hope that you will have a healthy understanding of your sexuality—here are a few pointers.
Be connected. Be sure that you have some emotional connection with your partner. This is not about the duration of a relationship but about how the most intimate of physical acts is enhanced when there is a deep and genuine emotional bond.
Be free to explore. You should not feel confined or coerced in your sexual life. With mutuality, you and your partner should allow one another to explore your sexual relationship without feeling physically forced or emotionally pressured into anything that is not comfortable to you both.
Be communicative. Neither you nor your partners are mind readers, so to avoid building resentment, you must talk about sex: needs, hopes, expectations, and joys. While it can be difficult and uncomfortable, talking is vital to a good sex life.
OK, you can turn the page now—or move on to the fart lesson if that will break the awkward bubble that you have been in for past few moments.
End. Of. Awkwardness.