March 13, 2015
Possible upcoming blog posts:
- Tales of a reluctant private school family
- Still in public school . . . sort of
- Well, we weren’t expecting THAT
Today and tomorrow we will be receiving high school notifications: public school assignment and private school admissions notices. Yes, we have always been huge public school supporters, but the choices open to us when it come to San Francisco are far too great to limit out daughter’s education experience.
Justification, maybe, but no one would deny the complexities of high school in San Francisco.
In any case, this is a hard time for these 13-year-olds as the hype around these decision has become weighty. Yes, high school is important, but we tend to build up this stage of life so much that it can border on unhealthy. I do not want to downplay the importance finding a community where a child will thrive, but the frenzy levels at this moment and time seems a bit out of whack.
We are hoping not to add to the heightened anxiety so when it comes to sharing high school assignment and acceptance we are encouraging our daughter to err on the side of tenderness and restraint. This is not about trying to be coy or “better than,” but we have already heard of tears and hurt feelings as kids have to navigate rejection letters, unmet expectations, and unexpected developments and we do not want to add to the feelings of disappointment. So, while we do not want to quash genuine joy and celebration, we are trying to instill, the “act like you’ve been here before” perspective in both celebration and disappointment.
These are hard, but important lessons to learn, not just for 13-year-olds, but for us all.
We will certainly share developments with close friends, but we, as a family, but we will only share more widely our final decision. Certainly there will be expressions of both joy and sadness shared in our home, but for the care of others going through the same experience, we’ll hold it there for now.
See you tomorrow.